I can't speak to the experience of others, but the Cosmi-Comu nocks that I have, I have roughly 50 shots on two different ones without any issues. I have some Nockturnals, and some other Amazon nocks and the Cosmi-Comu are brighter by a significant amount. At present, i'm shooting 63# with them.
Regarding your experience with nocks blowing up, by chance are you using 4mm arrows? Its my understanding that many folks have had issues finding durable lighted nocks in any brand for .166 arrows, which I can only imagine is compounded when shooting higher draw weight.
You bring up an interesting point regarding draw weight - I wonder what role that might have in durability of the lighted nocks. Shooting the draw weight that I do (63 - 67#), I haven't had any issues with durability of lighted nocks. Some have lasted longer than others, and some have surprised me with how long the battery life has lasted.
BlueCollarOutDoors on YouTube did a comparison of brightness of 1/2 dozen different nocks, and if I remember correctly he's shooting 83 or 84#. He's never mentioned any durability issues that I can recall, with whichever lighted nock he chose. He's responsive on his YouTube channel if you had a question about it for him